Quiet hands is a phrase used in compliance-based and normalization therapies such as ABA. It is increasingly falling out of favor as professionals begin to realize that stimming has an important purpose and that a child's thoughts and feelings are important.
Quiet hands may cause post-traumatic stress disorder and violence in children. Julia Bascom described how her "occasional, accidental flap gave [her] other autistic friend panic attacks." Issy Stapleton's mother noted that Issy's aggression towards her might have been from being asked to have "quiet hands and feet," among other things.
- Resources: compliance, ABA, social skills, indistinguishability, whole body listening
- The Caffeinated Autistic: On Stimming and why “quiet hands”ing an Autistic person is wrong
- Cynthia Kim: Socially Inappropriate
- Lydia Brown: Having Loud Hands
- Autism Spectrum Explained: Stimming Has a Function
All references carry a general trigger warning as the topic covers abuse.